How to Use the Law of Attraction to Find the Love of Your Life

How long do you think it might take you to find a needle in a haystack? Week after week, straw after straw–searching, digging, prying, clawing–with little to show for it but blisters and sores, most likely for quite a long time. Wouldn’t it be easier to simply become magnetic and let the needle come to you? That’s the difference between current dating rituals, and finding true love by using the Law of Attraction to draw it toward you.



The Law of Attraction suggests that, before we go out to find love, we should first go within to discover and release all the barriers we’ve built against it. For although we might be spending a lot of time running around trying to find “The One”, the truth is that most of us are working against ourselves in unconscious and covert ways, actually pushing the possibility of love away, despite our efforts to the contrary. So many of us make the mistake of assuming that because we want love we are therefore ready to receive it. We assume that looking for love is the same thing as being available to create it in our lives. Yet, until we become conscious of the specific ways we are repelling love from taking root in our lives, it will continue to evade us no matter how many “duty dates” we go on. Until we learn to anchor into the deeper truth of our own value, and feel confident in our ability to navigate relationships in ways that foster mutual trust, respect, safety and care, we will not be able to attract the kind of love we are longing for. No matter how many shafts of hay we manage to shift through, that coveted needle could continue to elude us forever.



In seeking to magnetize in relationships that represent a breakthrough in what we’ve been able to create in our lives thus far, the Law of Attraction demands that we identify, and challenge, our core beliefs about ourselves, others and life in general. Discovering these beliefs may not be as easy as it sounds, for many of them live as a vague felt sense in the body that is so pervasive to our experience that we don’t actually recognize them as beliefs. In our world, that’s just how life is.



One recent participant in our Calling in “The One” 7-week teleclass, Ruby, was not consciously aware that she had a belief that relationships were dangerous. She was too busy looking for a man she felt safe with – a man she could finally trust and give herself to completely. On a conscious level, Ruby thought she was doing everything she could to find her soulmate. After a bit of questioning, however, Ruby reluctantly confessed to hanging out with ex-cons and big, strong guys who wore pistol packs on their belts. Sheepishly, she admitted that she felt safe with a man who carried a gun. Ah, how life occurs as though it’s happening to us, rather than through us.